Kathlene Quinton

A S.T.O.R.Y. Reflection in Real Life One of the ways I use the S.T.O.R.Y. framework  is through a simple daily reflection. Not because life always needs analysis, but because sometimes the stories in our minds get loud. When that happens, it can be helpful to slow down and gently walk through the steps. This morning, I did just that. S — Slow Down What feels loud right now? Right now, what feels loud is my health. I have osteoporosis. I am reasonably young to be dealing with significant bone...

This morning I was thinking about my S.T.O.R.Y. framework , and I found myself getting a little stuck on R — Reality Check . In theory, this step seems simple. We pause and ask ourselves what is actually true. We try to separate the story our brain is telling from the facts in front of us. But the truth is…sometimes we are not ready for that reality check . Sometimes the reality check feels like too much. Sometimes our feelings are real and legitimate, and a quick “reality check” can feel...

In my last post I wrote about something I call loop thinking . That place where something happens during the day and our mind grabs onto it and simply won’t let go. We replay the situation, analyze what was said, predict what might happen next, and somehow find ourselves right back where we started. Our brains are incredibly good at trying to make sense of discomfort. When something doesn’t feel right, the mind starts building a story to explain it. Sometimes the story sounds like: I...